How To Let Someone Down Easy

Having to let someone go is a very difficult situation. You don't want to hurt the person but at the same time you know you don't love them so it's time to let them go.
How do you do it?
Honesty is always the best solution. Be honest at all times and don't sugar coat anything.
If you are not in love with the person you are with then it's time to tell him/her the truth. The more you sugar coat it the more hope you give the person. That is a No-No.

• Step 1: Make a decision.

Once you have made up your mind make sure it will stay made up. No amount of begging in the moment will make you go back on your resolve. If you have decided that you are not in love with the person you are with or even worse that you are in love with someone else, then tell them the truth. In the long run it is better appreciated and easier to accept. If you try to use the age old cliche of "It's not you it's me." Or even worse than that one "I just don't know what I want" Then you are not being honest. A straight "I don't love you and I have to be true to my heart." "I am in love with someone else and it has nothing to do with you or anything you have done wrong. The heart wants what the heart wants." These are truthful honest answers and explanations. It hurts in the moment but is better in the long run.

• Step 2: Don't argue or drag it out.

The longer you take to talk to the person after you have obviously made the decision the more you will hurt yourself and the person you are with.
Don't waste another minute. Make an appointment to see this person in a public place where there will be no place for yelling or drama. Tell them straight out and don't worry about their feelings in the moment. Be firm in your decision and let them understand this is YOUR decision and not up for discussion.

• Step 3: Be true to your heart

This I can't say enough. If you don't love a person don't be with the person. If you are trying to convince yourself to fall in love with that person because he/she is nice or you are lonely don't be with that person. Love comes within. If you love someone then RUN to that person and fight for that love. Never stay in a loveless relationship. Everyone deserves to be truly loved and to love truly. So make the right decisions.

• Step 4: Don't feel bad about your decision

If you are with a person you don't love anymore or never did then trust me you have made the right choice. They deserve to be with someone who will love them for them. And you deserve to be with the person you love and loves you back. They will find someone else and so will you. But never stay with someone for more than a second longer after you have found out that you are not in love and will never fall in love with that person.

• Step 5: Cut out all communications

After you have done the dead, give yourself a few days to breathe. Make sure you have cut out all communications with this person for good. No staying friends for now. Friendship can be rebuilt later if both parties are in agreement. But for now NO CONTACT. Let the water simmer down and let him/her breathe and let what happened sink in. I would say at least 3 weeks of no contact.

NOW: Last step. FOLLOW YOUR HEART.