Follow your Heart

Society has become so used to giving up and taking the easy way out, that it makes me sad. Divorce rates rise each day and people have become so desensitized to it that it is now seen so natural.

Where has the sanctity of marriage gone?

I start my blog today with this thought because I read in support groups all the time people giving advice. Without even knowing all the facts and history behind a story the number one advice is always: Let go of him/her. Forget him/her.

Aren’t the best relationships built on rocks that had to be broken down to build that perfect home? Obstacles are put in our way everyday and especially in our relationships to make us stronger and keep fighting for the ones we love. That is what love is all about.

I understand that if a person is with a cheater or a rapist or an abuser then yes they need to get out quick before they get hurt further.

What about the other millions of failed marriages or failed relationships that failed because one or the other just didn’t try hard enough? They then have to go through so much suffering and one day look back and ask themselves: Could I have done more?

Reality comes back to bite us when we least expect it. And when it does, I want to be able to say: “I did everything I could and it wasn’t my fault in the end.”

It’s ok to follow your heart. If you love someone and they have made a mistake and hurt you? Forgive them when you are able to. Work with them. Talk with them. (Don’t talk at them) and find peace in both your hearts. You will see that most times part of the blame falls back on you as well and if you are humble enough to see it your relationship will be that much greater in the future.

So you have been apart for years and still love each other and still want to be together? What’s wrong with that. If you are both still in love and can forgive each other for everything you have done while you were apart. Then what greater thing than going back and embracing that person you love more than anything else in this world.

There are very few good Women out there and unfortunately there are very few good Men out there as well. If you have found that love and have lost it because you hurt each other too much then all I can say is: Stop wasting your time trying to convince yourself of what is right and wrong. Your heart is telling you what it wants. Odds are you will never be happy again until you have followed your heart and fought for what you love.

Fears are a big issue. How many of us has asked ourselves this question: “But if I forgive him/her or take him/her back, what if he/she hurts me again?

My Answer: Do you love him/her? Is he/she a good person inside?

If you can answer yes to both these questions, then you have your answer. A good man/woman who you love without holding back is usually a person who is worth giving a million chances to get it right. And let’s not forget they are human and so are you. You probably have made many mistakes that have hurt him/her as well. So why not own up to those mistakes. See yourself in the mirror and be true to your heart.

There are many cases where these ideas don’t apply. If a person has cheated on you then probably they don’t deserve a second chance. If a person abuses you then they definitely don’t deserve any more chances. But in the relationships that have failed because of fears, doubts, lack of communication, outside influences, etc…  and there is still love from both parties then there is a chance for forgiveness and with that a chance for a better brighter future.

As I said before: Some (most) relationships deserve a second, third, fourth, a million chances. And if it’s still doesn’t work? Some deserve a million and one.

Don’t give up on your dreams and never give up on the people you love. If you do then you probably  didn’t truly love them.

Follow your heart. It might get you into trouble but it will never let you regret.